I've been thinking about this article that I recently read about knowing when to quit. The author gives some compelling reasons and benefits to being a quitter.
The article starts off:
Want to be one of life's winners? Stop trying! You'll be a lot healthier, maybe wealthier, and altogether happier.
And continues by stating:
Recently, psychologists Gregory Miller and Carsten Wrosch set out to investigate the mental and physical health of people who resist quitting, and of those who throw in the towel when facing unattainable goals. The second group—the quitters—were healthier than their persistent peers on almost every variable. They suffered fewer health problems, from digestive trouble to rashes, and showed fewer signs of psychological stress.
Despite the sensibility in this, I refuse to accept this. I am so NOT a quitter to a fault- with most things in life, especially relationships. And I'm not about to change! I really don't like closing the door. With most things in life, I believe more in keeping things open and even putting something on the back burner if the time is not right, and saving it or waiting for the right time. But with relationships it's a different ballgame. There there are certainly times that one must move on for your own sanity and health. But for me that is not an easy thing to do. I am just wired that way, as one of my friends put it, wired "to go to the ends of the earth and back to make a relationship work."
I took an abridged version of the Myers Briggs test recently, which revealed these very accurate things about my personality:
Tends to stick to things until they are done.
Well-respected for their perseverence in doing the right thing.
Likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful.
Tends to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship.
Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength
Natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective.
Holds a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring.
Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship.
If you're curious about the article I'm referring to, you can read it here
in its entirety.